Hi everyone,
My boyfriend used to box back in high school (before I knew him). He did pretty well but for various reasons he stopped. Now, years later, he wants to get back into it… only this time professionally. He’s got himself a promoter and a date for his first fight and everything…
Now I love him and will support him no matter what he does. I’ll be there to cheer him on, congratulate him when he wins, and console him when he loses. But… I’m scared. I don’t want him to get hurt. I have been reading too much about boxers getting brain injuries, and I’m really worried for him. It’s his dream, and I won’t stand in his way, but I don’t like it too much. What can I do? Is there some kind of support group for significant others?
Get to know the people in his corner and make sure they are reliable. If they seem dodgy then tell your bf coz you as his gf need to know that they will save him from taking any un-neccesary punishment.
Support group for significant others? There are not enough support groups for ex-fighters!!
What the hell do you need a support group for. If your other half is going pro, then it’s his job. How many support groups for significant others are there in other professions???
I think you may not realise what you are getting into here, in terms of the boxing?
If he is cleared by all doctors “By stats” he should be fine.
But get familiar with the training and the people that train him, learn more about boxing and his trainers etc then even he knows, that way you can look at every situation and tell him about how you feel. If he wants to do this then he may, but if you want to feel confident about letting him do it, get familiar with his corner, trainers etc… so you can some what ensure it to yourself.
Honestly i wouldnt worry about it.
besides a black eye and a few bruises getting seriously hurt is rare.
More people die by stray balls on a golf course each year, stupid but its a fact.
Thank you everyone (except X) for your suggestions. I’m glad that the corner people will be there to watch out for him like you say. I’ve talked to him about it and he says he will only keep going as long as he stays competitive… if he gets beaten badly, or it’s too one-sided, or he gets knocked out, he says he will stop. That makes me feel a lot better.
X: Why shouldn’t there be a support group for the people who hate the thought of the ones they love getting beaten up? There are groups for people whose SOs have other professions that are dangerous enough to inspire worry. The military for example (I have dated a couple of soldiers in the past… one is now off in Iraq )
hi cuteboots, its your boyfriend here…
I’ll be ok dont worry, they know what they are talking about…boxers rarely get brain damage, they get more of that in american football.
Anyway dear, im kind of hungry so can you get me some milk and cookie’s from the shops today and buy me that X-box, PS2 and that trillion dollar mansion across the street that ive always wanted. If you do that, ill quit altoghter.
K, thxs honey…ill speak to you after training when i get home ;D
Cuteboots - sorry to come over as all callous. The thing is that it’s a tough sport and there simply is no money to be creating support groups etc. Big money only comes to the tiny percentage at the very top.
Also, it is a sport at the end of the day. There are more injuries and deaths in professional rugby but there are no support groups - I can’t really see that there would be any in amateur boxing. ‘Support groups’ for other halves in sports sounds like PC bullshit anyway(IMO)
Sorry - just my opinion, no offence and all, but you did post on a public forum for opinions and advice
If hes with a promoter who regards him as good then he will be built up against people who just want to survive or are lighter or older and such like, he’ll be fed no hopers basicly to build his own level up.
As long as he trains to the best of his ability and he wants to go places hell be fine
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